Bullying Preescolar: how to identify it and how to stop it
Lately, the media have been full of news about "bullying" (bullying). These are usually carried out by rebellious teenagers who use their cell phones to record beatings and upload to You Tube.
However, something few parents know is the fact that bullying can begin at an early age, in preschool.
¿Bulls 4 years old?
Yes, possible. Experts, children before three years do not have the cognitive ability to empathize. Thus, when they make another child suffer, is because they realize what they are doing. However, this changes around 4 years and if a child is bad at this stage, That's just being-bad.
Bullying can be verbal (abuse), physical (beatings) or relational (rumors and social exclusion). The reasons behind this behavior can range from the small bully has been subjected to this type of behavior at home, the seeking attention, to simply likes how it feels to hurt others.
The identification of pre-school bullying can be complex. It is common for children to fight. De facto, it is a way in which you can learn social skills such as commitment, negotiation and forgiveness. When something becomes more? We give some signals:
1) Opposite effect: Instead of making children more emotionally strong, the fights bullying make one suffer from low self-esteem, Anxiety and fear.
2) Intention: Conflicts over bullying are not something of the moment, but something enduring in time. In a fight of the moment, both children are suffering or angry. In an act of bullying, one of the children may be smiling, showing that that was his intention.
3) Secret Behavior: The bullies know that what they do is wrong. Thus, They try to hide their behavior from parents or teachers.
4) Leadership: Bullies tend to be group leaders, and summon others to behave the same way. For example, to exclude a child from a group, the bully can make everyone rechazen.
My son is the victim of a bully?
Some signs that your child is going through this:
1) Unlike you go to the garden (before and loved)
2) Complains of headaches or stomach when going to school or dance classes or soccer.
3) No longer wants to play with a child who was his friend before.
4) Constantly aware that he is a guy "bothering".
5) Becomes withdrawn or depressed.
6) He says bad things about himself as, "I'm stupid" or "nobody loves me".
7) Often have cuts and bruises and have "forgotten" as obtained.
What to do?
The complexity of preschool bullying makes it not easy to deal with. Here are some tips to help your children.
1) Talk to your child. This is the only way in which you can find out what really happens. Listen to their stories and feelings without judging or upset you. Only then will have the confidence to tell what happens. Help him to find words for the situation, asking questions like: "Did someone hurt you?"And" Can you tell me exactly what he did?”.
2) No minimices. Many parents make the mistake of thinking that they are "kid stuff", and wait until the critical point to do something. If your child constantly aware that there's a guy or girl who bothers, s time to pay attention.
3) Enséñale. Most of the time the bullying happens without adults become aware, and is key for children to know act for themselves. Acts situations with your toddler, showing different ways in which it can act: be strong and tell her to stop (as if it will not affect the behavior), ignorar al bully, the contarle an adult.
4) Help him make friends. It will be more difficult for your child to be bothered if you have buddies who accompany. Invite other boys or girls to share with him. Besides serving of "protection", these children will help you develop relational skills that may apply to the bully.
5) Acts. If the situation continues, maybe it's time to get involved. Talk to the teacher. If you have not seen anything, not necessarily mean bad teacher, but the child bully is very good at what he does. Comentale the problem. If you do not receive aid, keep pressing until the situation changes. You can also talk to the parents of the child bully ("Did you realize that our children do not get along very well?”), but do not be surprised if they do not ignore the problem completely. The important thing is for you to stand firm in what you think is right.